I was talking to somebody today about relationships, specifically male/female relationships. The discussion basically centered around the idea of sex before marriage. It has been proven statistically that the majority of women who have sex prior to marriage resent it. Consider the motivations. None of it really has the partner's best interest in mind. It is lust, it is a rationalization that this is normal in our culture or a plethora of other reasons. However, none of them are really about loving the other person. In the famous love chapter, 1st Corinthians 13, the Apostle Paul talks to a church that had basically gotten off track and he shares the characteristics of love to help them get back on track. Paul talks about patience, kindness, long suffering, endurance, thinking no evil and a host of other characteristics designed to help us understand the character of God. Yet we we engage in the practice of intimacy completely outside of the definitions that He has provided for us. Instead of it being the epitome of the expression of love, it becomes a selfishly, or at the very best, grossly misunderstood expression of something God created for us. If we are really honest, it is more about satisfying our sexual appetite, not showing love. Why are the chances of divorce higher? Resentment - primarily on the side of the woman because her knight in shining armor was more concerned about satisfying his own 'needs' rather that looking out for her. Instead of the relationship being a covenant it is converted into a contract.
-aJesusfollower
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